A boost, that’s what they are, a boost. I love “atta-boys,” they give me a boost that helps me keep on keeping on. I taught a series of lessons a few years ago using Dr. Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages as the basis. While I taught the class I discovered that my love language is compliment followed closely by touch. I love being appreciated and complimented, that’s what drives me. I thrive when I know that what I’m doing is being noticed by others in a positive way. I also love being touched by people. I enjoy being hugged, or patted on the back. When you think about it my two love languages are great for everyone. Just think about it, in order to thrill me you don’t have to spend a dime. In fact I’m a very cheap date. All you have to do is tell me you think I’m great while giving me a hug and I’ll jump off of the highest bridge in Loop, Texas for you.
“Kent, there ain’t no bridge in Loop, Texas.”
“Oops”
Anyway, I’ve received three pretty nice “atta-boys” in the last twenty-four hours and I want to tell you about them. The first came yesterday afternoon while I was putting Chick-fil-A meal boxes together for a High School baseball team. My phone rang and it was Mike Starnes, a good friend who worships with me at McDermott Road. He said, “Kent I was sitting here looking at my sales and my prospects and I realized that I should be feeling down because I have no sales, and at this point I have no prospects, but I have been feeling great all day. So I ask myself why I was feeling so good and it dawned on me. It was the song service that Kent led us in last night at church.” He even said, “I wish you would lead songs more often cause you just pick us up when you lead singing.”
Well, that about sent me to heaven right then and there. We were on the phone so there was no hug, but I still felt it. I still felt the love and it put a spring in my step as I went about the rest of the day. The second “atta-boy” came from Paula last evening. Paula is a school teacher and she works many times harder than I do, so I try to do things around the house. Last night I made up a batch of guacamole and a dish of flat green beef enchiladas for supper. We are so busy, and I work so many nights during the baseball season that we don’t eat at home very often so Paula was happy when she got home and I told her that sup was in the oven. We snacked on the guac while waiting for the enchiladas to cook, and she complimented me on the fresh homemade dip I had made. Then after taking the first bite of enchiladas she said this is really good. Now, I’m a fairly good cook for ole farm boy but when I took a bite I said, “Wow, these are good!” The best thing about the evening was when she got up and dipped up a second helping. “Ca-ching!” A silent compliment that confirmed her words, she really enjoyed the meal.
The third “atta-boy” came this morning when I opened a Face Book message from an old friend back in West Texas. He said, “Kent I’m half way through your book, and I just wanted to let you know how much I’m enjoying it.” He went on to say “I’ve been going through a rough time lately and your book is really helping me see things better.” I’ll be on cloud nine for the rest of the day just because he took the time and effort to say thanks. When I hear from people, men especially, about how my book has helped them it always gives me a boost. Let’s face it takes time and effort to write a note like that, and I know that men have a hard time opening up and expressing their feeling, so for him to that is really special.
Thanks to my wife and those two men for make my day, I hope I can pay it forward to someone else today.
Till next time,
Grump
